If you've ever gotten in over your head trying to be a good person, get ready to wince, laugh, and scream. A great read.



The acclaimed Hollywood writer’s second memoir, following the well-reviewed Sin Bravely (2017).

Rowe opens by explaining that even though she is blessed with a wonderful husband, career, and home in LA, she is tormented by "a seething system of covetous rivalries and discontents" as well as an insidious form of OCD called looping, which involves being unable to stop repeating a word or phrase in one's head—e.g., “Auschwitz.” “As the repeating voice gains confidence and asserts itself more boldly—Auschwitz, Auschwitz, Auschwitz—the panic that creeps through my skin does not compare itself to any other,” she writes. These troubles might have been enough to keep her busy, but then her kindhearted husband, Jimmy, made two new friends, a mother and daughter panhandling outside a restaurant, both of whom were huge fans of his work as a writer on The Golden Girls. After several months, the author joined one of the trio's monthly lunches; not long after, she found herself watching a Golden Girls marathon with the ladies in her home. While the mother, Sunny, was a likable jokester with fairly normal boundaries, her middle-aged daughter, Joanna, was not. She had an elementary school education, poor personal hygiene, and numerous odd tics, obsessions, and fixations—among them, her ever growing crush on Handsome Jim, as she often referred to Rowe’s husband. As Sunny and Joanna's situation took several turns for the worse, the author took on increasing responsibilities for them. Jimmy, on the other hand, had his hands full taking care of his wife. Rowe is a cleareyed, disarmingly honest, wonderfully funny narrator of this trial by fire, which almost seems to be a "test" of the sort the hero faces in a fable or a Bible story, ironically set in one of the most self-involved places on Earth.

If you've ever gotten in over your head trying to be a good person, get ready to wince, laugh, and scream. A great read.

Pub Date: Jan. 25, 2022

ISBN: 978-1-64009-379-9

Page Count: 320

Publisher: Counterpoint

Review Posted Online: Oct. 20, 2021

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Nov. 15, 2021

Did you like this book?

No Comments Yet

If the authors are serious, this is a silly, distasteful book. If they are not, it’s a brilliant satire.


The authors have created a sort of anti-Book of Virtues in this encyclopedic compendium of the ways and means of power.

Everyone wants power and everyone is in a constant duplicitous game to gain more power at the expense of others, according to Greene, a screenwriter and former editor at Esquire (Elffers, a book packager, designed the volume, with its attractive marginalia). We live today as courtiers once did in royal courts: we must appear civil while attempting to crush all those around us. This power game can be played well or poorly, and in these 48 laws culled from the history and wisdom of the world’s greatest power players are the rules that must be followed to win. These laws boil down to being as ruthless, selfish, manipulative, and deceitful as possible. Each law, however, gets its own chapter: “Conceal Your Intentions,” “Always Say Less Than Necessary,” “Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy,” and so on. Each chapter is conveniently broken down into sections on what happened to those who transgressed or observed the particular law, the key elements in this law, and ways to defensively reverse this law when it’s used against you. Quotations in the margins amplify the lesson being taught. While compelling in the way an auto accident might be, the book is simply nonsense. Rules often contradict each other. We are told, for instance, to “be conspicuous at all cost,” then told to “behave like others.” More seriously, Greene never really defines “power,” and he merely asserts, rather than offers evidence for, the Hobbesian world of all against all in which he insists we live. The world may be like this at times, but often it isn’t. To ask why this is so would be a far more useful project.

If the authors are serious, this is a silly, distasteful book. If they are not, it’s a brilliant satire.

Pub Date: Sept. 1, 1998

ISBN: 0-670-88146-5

Page Count: 430

Publisher: Viking

Review Posted Online: May 20, 2010

Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 15, 1998

Did you like this book?

A refreshing celebrity memoir focused not strictly on the self but on a much larger horizon.

Our Verdict

  • Our Verdict
  • GET IT

  • New York Times Bestseller

  • IndieBound Bestseller


One of Hollywood’s biggest stars delivers a memoir of success won through endless, relentless work and self-reckoning.

“My imagination is my gift, and when it merges with my work ethic, I can make money rain from the heavens.” So writes Smith, whose imagination is indeed a thing of wonder—a means of coping with fear, an abusive father with the heart of a drill instructor, and all manner of inner yearnings. The author’s imagination took him from a job bagging ice in Philadelphia to initial success as a partner in the Grammy-winning rap act DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince. Smith was propelled into stardom thanks to the ministrations of Quincy Jones, who arranged an audition in the middle of his own birthday party, bellowing “No paralysis through analysis!” when Smith begged for time to prepare. The mantra—which Jones intoned 50-odd times during the two hours it took for the Hollywood suits to draw up a contract for the hit comedy series The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air—is telling, for hidden within this memoir lies a powerful self-help book. For Smith, all of life is a challenge in which one’s feelings are largely immaterial. “I watched my father’s negative emotions seize control of his ample intellect and cause him over and over again to destroy beautiful parts of our family,” he writes, good reason for him to sublimate negativity in the drive to get what he wanted—money, at first, and lots of it, which got him in trouble with the IRS in the early 1990s. Smith, having developed a self-image that cast him as a coward, opines that one’s best life is lived by facing up to the things that hold us back. “I’ve been making a conscious effort to attack all the things that I’m scared of,” he writes, adding, “And this is scary.” It’s a good lesson for any aspiring creative to ponder—though it helps to have Smith’s abundant talent, too.

A refreshing celebrity memoir focused not strictly on the self but on a much larger horizon.

Pub Date: Nov. 9, 2021

ISBN: 978-1-984877-92-5

Page Count: 432

Publisher: Penguin Press

Review Posted Online: Nov. 9, 2021

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Dec. 15, 2021

Did you like this book?